Likely, you’re knee-deep in planning your wedding day, but that special day is only the small, first step to your new life together. Throughout your marriage, you and your spouse will change. The secret to making the marriage last is changing together and complementing each other as partners through every stage of your lives.
Premarital counseling is a great way to have a healthy engagement and pave the way for a healthy, wonderful marriage.
Depending on who is officiating your wedding, premarital counseling may already be required. This is often the case for couples that are getting married in a church, or with a reverend as their officiant. However, even for non-religious couples, premarital counseling is always a good idea.
GET TO KNOW THEM DIFFERENTLY
It’s obvious that you two are already well acquainted and adjusted to one another. After all, that’s why you decided to get married. However, unless you’ve been to a couples’ counseling session already, you’ve yet to really approach your relationship with the help of professional counsel. Whoever you choose to handle your premarital counseling will bring different topics to the table, and you’ll ultimately get to know your fiancé in ways you wouldn’t otherwise know you could. This sounds like a strange suggestion, but you don’t know until you try it for yourself.
SPEND TIME TOGETHER
Again, this is going to come across as a strange suggestion, but premarital counseling provides a scheduled time that you and your fiancé can spend together. Your lives were already busy, and planning a wedding only adds to that craziness. An hour or two a week (or whatever schedule you work out with your counselor) will give you and your fiancé time to enjoy each other’s company without life’s stresses getting in the way.
THEORIZE SOLUTIONS TO FUTURE PROBLEMS
You’re going to encounter problems in your marriage—that’s a given. Every couple does, and it’s not necessarily a bad thing. It’s how you handle the problems that really matters. Premarital counseling will bring to light some of the issues you’ll face, as well as equip you with ways to handle them together. Your counselor will help you build a toolbox of solutions to problems long before you’ll even experience them for yourselves.
LEARN AND ADJUST HEALTHY EXPECTATIONS
Unless you’ve been married before, you’re essentially going into this blind. On the other hand, your counselor has helped many other couples through the process of getting and staying married.
By this point, you know that your marriage won’t be fairy-tale perfect, but your expectations may still not be where they need to be. Through premarital counseling, you’ll get a better understanding, from a licensed professional, of what you can realistically expect from your spouse throughout your marriage. You will work together to set expectations for one another, which will work wonders for your life together, ultimately leading to fewer arguments and disappointments.
IT DOESN’T HAVE TO STOP AT THE WEDDING
Once your wedding day arrives, your premarital counseling will be over. However, that doesn’t mean that you and your spouse shouldn’t still attend counseling together! Marriage counseling is typically regarded as something that couples don’t want to have to do, but it’s time to break this stigma. By routinely attending counseling, you continually work together to better your relationship, instead of waiting until something is broken to fix it.
How you decide to carry out your marriage is ultimately up to you and your partner. As Dream Weddings, we typically focus on first day of your marriage. However, we realize that every day following matters just as much, and we want you to be as prepared as possible for your dream life.