You’ve heard the saying that “a chain is only as strong as its weakest link.” Between your fiancé, your bridesmaids and your groomsmen, you have a pretty strong team already. However, you’re definitely going to want to complete that team with a wedding planner who means business.

With a ton of options available and a lot of decisions to make, some of which you may not even be aware of, you want to be sure you’re not setting yourself up for regrets when it comes to your wedding. Going into the process with a clear expectation of what you want is the best way to get it.


The process of finding a wedding planner begins with a little bit of homework. It’s a planner’s job to make the process easier so start by making a list of what you want them to plan. Do you want them to facilitate your rehearsal dinner? Schedule transportation for out-of-town guests? Reserve hotel room blocks? Design the reception space? Make a list of what you and your fiancé realistically want done by your planner.

You should also have a clear vision of how you want your wedding to look. Try to think about all of the design choices that are important to include in your décor. Do you want the room to be filled with flowers from floor to ceiling? You should probably mention this in the initial consultation with your potential planner.

You should also make yourself aware of the services provided by the venue or venues that you are considering. Some venues include wedding planning in certain packages, as well as food or entertainment. When considering hiring wedding planner, you’ll want to know what is provided by the venue so you know how to request complementing services.


If there are certain things you need to know about your planner, make a list of those questions and be sure to ask them. Remember that this person will work for you until the day of the wedding, so you’ll want to know some things about their professional work and personality. After all, the initial consultation is basically the same as a job interview! Your wedding planner should be excited to answer your questions and sell himself or herself as the right candidate to make your wedding come to life.

Just like you want to get to know your planner, they will also want to get to know you and your fiancé. Specifically, they’ll want to know your expectations and hopes for the wedding. Be honest about what you want because this will help them know whether or not they feel confident that they can make your dream wedding happen.


When it comes to hiring a wedding planner, personality really does matter. If you don’t feel that your personality matches well with your planner, they probably aren’t the right one for you. After you’ve met for the initial consultation, it’s important to think about how your questions or concerns were received.

Do you feel like your planner listened to your vision and did they feel that it was possible? Did they seem to understand the direction that you are taking in your wedding design? Do you believe that they will adhere to your budget without breaking your bank? Did they seem excited to work with you? These are all imperative qualities that should help you know when you’ve found the right planner.

Sure, you’ve done ALL of your research and you think that you have everything together. But you know you’ve found a good wedding planner when they come up with the things that never even crossed your mind. Now, don’t take this personally.

The fact that your wedding planner is thinking of things that you haven’t is a good sign that your wedding will go smoothly with their help. It means that they’re on the ball and will allow you to enjoy your wedding day without the stress of managing all of the moving parts.


Great! You’ve found the perfect person to plan your wedding! They’re going to help you a lot throughout the exciting process leading up to your big day.

Now it’s important to maintain a good level of contact with your planner. Try not to inundate them with calls and messages but also be sure to keep them in the loop. If you think of something that your wedding just wouldn’t be complete without, be sure to give your wedding planner ample time to make the necessary calls. Be consistently explicit about what you want and give your planner every opportunity to make it happen.

You feel confident with your choice of a wedding planner, so allow him or her to handle the job you’ve given them. This is the time to focus on you and let yourself enjoy the perks of having someone else do the work. You’ve been equipped with everything necessary to make this professional relationship a success, so take a deep breath, relax and watch as your Dream Wedding unfolds. Happy planning!

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